You are not your job. You are not the car you drive.
You’re not the contents of your wallet.
Mariana Marin belt and skirt (www.almarshop.ro)
passepartouS heels (www.passepartous.com)
He wrote the short story “Ligeia”. And besides, I have always liked Edgar Allan Poe’s writings. I was reading them in my winter holidays nights before high-school and they made those nights really special. I try not to live in the past, but those memories are great and I go there sometimes, pausing from my actual activities. After all, Poe was the one saying that those who dream by day are cognizant of many things that escape those who dream only at night.
I am not a daydreamer, but you know, for a moment or two I think it’s good to take a break from interacting with the world and stay just with yourself, taking care of you and remembering that YOU ARE, you EXIST and, as a famous book and movie character has put it, “you are not your job, you’re not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. […] You are all singing, all dancing crap of the world.” (Chuck Palahniuk’s “Fight Club”)
The all singing, all dancing crap of the world. Because you are unique, just like everybody else is. Each of us is unique, but each of us is the same as the other. How can this „contradiction” be? We are „nobody”, and yet we are „everything”. We are unique, because we are not the same. Each of us is a universe. Each of us has an inner life that is his/her universe. And yet, we are all the same, because we are all energy. We are built of the same material. We all have a soul which is evolving at different speeds, but the essence is the same. Just the lessons are different. So, we are so great in being so small. Comparing ourselves with greater things, we are nothing, we are „the crap of the world”. But daring to „sing”, to „dance” or to „dream by day” as Poe says, with our eyes open (or closed), gives greatness to our small scale. Only by being aware of our existence and by becoming detached of our regular lives, jobs, quarells, worries, we become aware that we are more than that. We are more than a machine functioning on reflexes and impulses. And when we realize this, the silence inside us appears. The calm. The light. We don’t perceive the speed of time. Everything slows down. The shadows on the walls move slower. The ticking of the clocks is more clear and more rare. We perceive the harmony of light, its reflections in mirrors and in ourselves.
So, do yourself a favor. Do something after reading this. Get up and search for a quiet place. Or choose a time during your workday, any time. It can be 5 minutes or 10, or as long as you wish. Just get up from your desk and search for a quiet place. It can be the restroom of your office or it can be a locker room. You can close your eyes and try to see yourself differently. I won’t say anything more about it. It’s something you can only understand by experiencing it for yourself.
And speaking about taking a step back, I think that you can take a step back from your usual office style as well, still respecting the dress code (if there is one). No need to wear the uniform „jacket plus trousers” or „jacket plus skirt” or the other regular „office style” outfits. There are always simple solutions to make an office outfit more feminine and more „you”. You can do this by accesorizing it differently or wearing those usual pieces in other combinations than before. For example, you can wear a classic white shirt with a very feminine skirt and an unusual belt. It can change entirely your office outfit, giving more style to it. Or you can choose other combinations, depending on your mood and personal style.
For this look I have chosen a skirt and belt by Mariana Marin (www.almarshop.ro), a young designer with a very warm and feminine style. I personally know Mariana and I can say that the delicacy and smartness you find in her creations are really part of her.
This kind of outfit is also versatile, so if you have a quick dinner after work you can accesorize it accordingly with no trouble. A statement necklace or a pair of special earrings would not go unnoticed.
This is the type of outfit you can wear with shoes and also with boots. At this length of skirt it’s better to wear high heels, otherwise your legs may look shorter than they really are. And another thing: the skirt has to cover the boots. I have chosen a pair of high-heels from passepartouS (www.passepartous.com), since they have an elegant line, they are made of quality leather and they are very comfortable in spite of their height. If you wish a pair for yourself, Petronela Negulescu and Giorgiana Topoloiu would be your shoes fairies, making for you that pair of shoes, sandals or boots you dreamed to be happy in.
So, taking a step back from the outer world is not so hard even in our busiest days. On the outside you can wear something different than the usual uniform, still allowing the dress-code to be there, but feeling more like „yourself”. Meaning that you use the dress-code, not the other way around.
And on the inside – well, we all have this room inside us where wonderful things happen. I’m talking about things like slowing down and reconnecting with ourselves. After experiencing them, we come out of that magic room with a new brightness and understanding in our eyes. We want to share it with the whole world. And this is L o v e.